Tuesday, January 12, 2021

Thoughts for "Today"

I have to say I am really going to miss this place!  It was such a window on the world that we didn't even have a TV here.  The view of real life was complex and amazing.




 This next phase is going to be exciting, interesting and in reality we have no choice...life does keep marching on.

G and I had a conversation of how our adult lives are segmented into experiences and that what we are entering now is just another segment.  

There was the...

1. newly married segment: adjusting to living and compromising with another adult

2.  children segment: learning to be a person who is totally responsible for another human being

3.  the scariest period was the turning over your child to another adult...ie daycare, preschool, school.  It is during this period you have got to believe in the power of your own gut.

4.  Kids are more interested in stuff outside the home...now what do you do?  Who are you...oh yeah, I have a partner and you dive into hobbies.

5.  during those later school years, life is a blur of activities...trying to allow your kids to have experiences but at the same time feeling protective.

6.  High school is a huge transition for us all...freedom, lots of prayers...and oh yeah, I have a partner...let's start dating again.

7.  Kids leave home for college...lots of prayer and...lots of dating cause now it is the 2 of you and hey, you go away on weekend trips without worrying.

8.  Kids marry and are starting on their own paths...you retire and start traveling!  Eating out, meeting others for happy hours and camping...try a cruise or 2...a really sweet spot.

9. your kids have kids and you start feeling the tug to be more present.

10.  A pandemic happens and the isolation affirms the want to be together with family...this new segment is going to be a fantastic period.  With all the loss that G and I  have had throughout our entire lives we have never been more ok...because hey, we have a partner and that is a huge blessing.


28 comments:

  1. Beautifully written Anna. Enjoy your new home and all the opportunities that lie ahead. HUGS

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  2. Best wishes on this new segment. We thought we had found the sweet spot - except for retirement - until the pandemic hit. So I'm looking forward to being able to travel and eat out again someday. And I'm thankful for my hobbies and even for my job that have sustained me this past year.

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    1. I have a whole list of new restaurants that I want to try!!

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  3. Happy for you both, Stitch on My friend. And for G, more beautiful music please.

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    1. he is working hard to unpack his music room...soon

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  4. Good words, all true!! Now after all of the above mentioned events in our lives, we're celebrating (??) our 50th wedding anniversary !!!! Somehow, we'll manage a little something but at least we still have one another & a lovely life with a wonderful family.

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  5. A thought provoking assessment of your journey...XO

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  6. You are so right, Anna. My husband and I frequently comment how grateful we are to have each other thru this pandemic. Lockdowns are super hard on those who are alone.

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  7. This is all so true! So many different stages in life with our children :). I'm so glad that you have such a wonderful, perfect for you hubby for life!!!! It really does make all the difference in the world :).

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    1. relationships are never easy but you just keep working towards perfection...yeah right, LOL...

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  8. A partner is definitely a good blessing. The phases of life...I love the way you defined them.

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    1. I think sometimes we forget our blessings

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  9. Oh for a partner still here to get through these lockdowns with. But alas it's not to be, so one day at a time, believing that the end is in sight. But we do have our quilting and stitching to get us through. Made a super cute gnome mug rug last night. Will send it to my cousin in assisted living. Now they have it hard, all alone with no visitors allowed. We talk often.

    Hope the condo sells quickly and everything goes smoothly. With the view there should be no problem finding the right buyer.

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    1. yes, it is wonderful to have someone to talk to even if they don't agree that you are right...all of the time!

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  10. As I follow your journey, mine is the same. We to are moving to a 55+ community to simplify our lives and have more time for travel and family. Thank goodness , I too, have a partner to share it with. What an incredible journey and I’m looking forward to the next segment, too.

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    1. each segment brings it's challenges and joys and I have loved them all

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  11. Wow I see why you hate giving up that Condo. It is just a beautiful view. You have many memories to take with you. Enjoy the Bee Hive that will make you at piece with the world. Happy stitching my friend. ❤��

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    1. yeah...it really was a blessing to our whole family.

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  12. AMEN sister. It is our partner that is there for us every.....single.....day :-) Congrats on cultivating the relationship through the decades.

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    1. working through the tough times is what makes the journey

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