Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Brain Real Estate, Will Consider All Offers!


Although we are almost half way through the year I have come up with a new idea!  Never to be one who can't create new chaos and demands in my life I woke up with this idea a couple of weeks ago and started mulling it around in my mind....hummm.

I have a little used piece of brain real estate that is not being used currently.  The part my mom used to occupy.  I miss my mom...but, in reality she occupied a good portion of my brain real estate with her expectations and judgement.  Now, I get to embrace the great parts of our life together and leave the not so great parts behind. Which means there is some space that I can fill with something fun!  

My idea is (drum roll please) for the next year starting today I am going to limit my gift giving to items I have made myself!  Can it be done?  Least you think I won't be stimulating the economy by this adventure...not to worry!  I'll need supplies!  I am going to post on the sidebar each month my attempts at gift making! I realize that this is NOT a novel idea and many of you (Corney...I'm talkin' bout you) already are doing this...but it is novel to me.


I made this sweet pin cushion by Primitive Gatherings as a gift for a friend to celebrate her retirement.  She loved it and I equally felt good.  I loved that I had taken the time to make something I knew she would love.  The challenge for me is not procrastinating till the last minute!




Here is a question for you...are your parents talking at you and taking up "mind" real estate? The thing about parents (and, I am one) is, we can take up real estate even if we have gone to the quilt shop in the sky!  Secondly, if you could possibly give up that conversation what would you do with that time?  You can post a comment or just consider it privately.

...and to get this stated, here is my gift too you...I started collecting gift ideas on my "Gift Ideas" Pinterest site, just in case you want some inspiration!

20 comments:

  1. My mom always loved crafting and wanted me to take over my grandmother's rug hooking, but I didn't care for it then. Now I wish they were both alive and we could sit together and create together.

    I do like making gifts and always try to make things that match the person's tastes and likes, but I always end up behind by the time christmas comes.

    Debbie

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    1. what a beautiful thought, sitting with 3 generations all enjoying each others company...creating!

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  2. Both of my parents have been gone long enough that the real estate they fill in my mind has given over to good things. The “should do” and “should have” statements are all but gone. I now know, and admit, that I need to thank my mother for my creative side. I often wonder if I would be a quilter if she hadn’t been so creative in so many different ways. She never showed any interest in quilting but did become quite a seamstress, knitter, and general designer before she passed at just 55 years old.

    BTW - I started reading your Blog when a friend of mine decided to retire and relocate to OR. That trip we took last summer to Sisters really made an impression on her.

    -ginger

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    1. ohhh who is your friend and where did she finally settle? I am slowly losing all the negative and embracing all the love. 55 is so young. My father died at 49 too young. My mother always wanted me to not quilt because she thought it caused weight gain...lol but I always told her that my memories are filled with her sewing all our clothes!

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  3. I never thought of it that way, but I did get a lot of brain real estate after my Mom passed away a couple of years ago (Dad passed away 14 years ago). I found myself making gifts for everyone (baking goes over well with my sister and her family - they don't appreciate the work in my quilting and sewing). I buy for my son, but he recently started out on his own and I get things for his apartment. He gets handmade stuff as well, which he does appreciate. My friends love the handmade items. I do ornaments for people at work.

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    1. I think I am really going to enjoy creating for friends and loved ones. I was used to getting a call, text or email daily from mom...it is a lot of silence.

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  4. roflol Yes, you did just say that! In about 3 or 4 weeks I will be shipping a gift that I made for one of my granddaughters back in January for her mid-June birthday. I have made gifts for family and friends for many years, though some years I do a combination of handmade for some and bought for others. The trick is to find projects or even UFO's that you want to do all through the year and have the joy of making them then. My granddaughter's gift is an item that I made out of my "practice sandwich" for SewCalGal's 2012 FMQ Challenge. I was going to do the challenge piece anyway, so why not make my sample large enough to make the gift with a large enough scrap piece to save for my challenge notebook?? It's a "twofer"! (That's 2 items on the "to do" list with 1 project!) I'll email you a photo of the project.

    As for that parent real estate....my parents (MIL too) haven't talked at me for many years. They live in some "great neighborhoods"! lol

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    1. you are my guru Corney! Efficient creativity and you totally crack me up!

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  5. I love your idea of the brain real estate!!! Sometimes its not even just parents who take up too much room in there! Fabulous idea to give all hand made, thanks for the link to your pinterest too I'm off to check it out. xo

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    1. you are right...brain real estate can be taken up by anyone you allow in there!

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  6. Yes, Mom still has a lease on my brain property. It is lessening, though! Glad for that. Great idea to give all handmade; know it will be appreciated. I try to give something small that is handmade with a check. Teens (Grandkids) appreciate the $. You asked about our aspirations. I want to foster parent. Have wanted to for quite awhile and will do it when caretaking is no longer an issue. 5 boys lived with us over the years, one only for 3 months and the longest period was + 3 years. My kids brought 3 of them home as teens. Two nephews lived with us earlier. I'd prefer to take siblings that might be placed seperately otherwise. And, school age - am not up for tiny ones anymore. Need time to quilt!

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    1. It does take time, and suddenly you realize it is quiet. lol...I totally get the $ along with something homemade. you aspiration is so centered from the heart. You truly are an angel amongst us.

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  7. Anna, in a previous life we must of been sisters as we think so much alike. I always make homemade gifts for friends and the young grands. My Mom has a lease on my brain property as we are her caregiver. My hubby, the dear angel, buffers our interactions. There are so many things we could do that we have not been able to do, enjoying 'alone time' would be a blessing.

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    1. ah, a sister from another mother! Being a person's caregiver allows more access to the heart and mind and it is a challenge creating those boundaries...thank goodness for DH!

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  8. I also am my mothers caregiver, and she has a large amount of property in my brain. She has lived with us for 4 years so I am not even sure of what else I could do with that space in my brain, but there are some days that
    I would love to explore that option.

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    1. I am still getting used to the silence. They call us the sandwich generation...and I was a big piece of lunch meat! lol

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  9. Whats funny is I totally get that

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  10. and now you have me thinking again (do you smell smoke?) ... i have successfully retaken the brain real estate that my dog used to occupy (she and i were never best friends) and i use that extra space for quiet reflection on why some of us are NOT dog/cat/lizard/bird/whatever people, but still lovable in our own way ...... i'm pretty sure that my own mother will sublet her square footage of my brain real estate to my sister or Predator Daughter and i will never get rid of the lease...

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    1. yep, there is some excavation that has been going on! I think if you lease out something it does have an end point! lol

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